Laughter Doeth the Marriage Well

Not that 24 years makes me an expert, but I think I have learned a few things about marriage.

Laughter makes all things better.

Sometimes you have to laugh, or you would cry.

Marriage is hard because well, uh, because men are men and women are women.

I know,  that’s deep.

We’re different.  We think differently.  We act differently.  We find solutions to problems differently.  We define what’s a problem differently.

The Lord certainly had a sense of humor, and of course, a sense of purpose, when he determined a man and a woman would marry and “the two shall become as one.”

Two completely different human beings have to  learn to live and act together in harmony for the good of their marriage, their immediate family and others around.

A high calling from the God Most High.

Yet, after 24 years of those struggles and trials that either make you crazy or crazy in love, we have become one of those couples who finish each other’s sentences, say the same things at the same time, or utter a few words of direction and the other person knows what it means.

Most of the time. And when that isn’t working, laughter works.

I can joke about my husband’s ears.  It is easier than getting angry.

I can joke about my husband’s eyes.  It is easier than getting angry.

The reality is, it will only get worse, because we actually will begin losing our physical sight and hearing as we age.  I guess the older I get, the LOUDER I will have to laugh, making sure he is standing in front of me so he can read my lips in case he STILL can’t hear me.

I have learned to accept him, as he has learned to accept me.  Since he doesn’t blog, he doesn’t have the occasion to tell you I RARELY remember to check the gas gauge  before I drive off – always a few minutes late. This behavior is unfathomable to him, but he has learned to accept this, laugh, and try to help keep the vehicles in gas and keep me on time. By his kind example, my children have also learned to look out for me in my areas of weakness, helping and reminding, and yes, sometimes laughing.

Some things that bother us about our spouse can change with time, with changes in habits and with gentle encouragements. But in reality, those things that irritate us, are probably the things that are doing the most good to make us more kind, more patient, more loving and more understanding as humans.

Who would you rather go through life-changing moments with?  Someone who loves you or a stranger?  I would much rather have my husband point out something in my life.  He is saying it for my good, a stranger might be saying something out of annoyance or to avoid being affected by the consequences of my actions.

 

Laughter blows off steam in the same way anger does, but the release will have no guilt, no apology needed, and can bring about the relaxed attitude needed to find common ground and resolution in a situation.

It’s not laughing in mockery.  It’s not laughing at sin or a situation that is serious.  The laughter isn’t in refusal to admit there’s a problem, but it’s a cheerful acceptance of the situation until the Lord gives wisdom for resolution.

If you are having marriage ills, try laughing. It’s good  medicine.

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7 Responses to Laughter Doeth the Marriage Well

  1. Ruby March 20, 2010 at 11:22 am #

    Laughter is the best medicine and a merry hearted person is so much nicer to around!It is good to be able to see the funny side of life. I always enjoy your posts, whether inspirational, funny or wise. Have a great weekend Mindy.

  2. beccarankin March 20, 2010 at 12:11 pm #

    I needed that this morning. Not for my marriage necessarily, but for life. Laughter does help get through the tough stuff.

  3. ~ Tandis ~ March 20, 2010 at 2:25 pm #

    So true!I got so frustrated one day and just didn't know how to express my anger without blowing up, I suddenly burst into speaking in the 3rd person…Shawn looked at me and was like "what?!" And then started laughing at me and I realized how ridiculous it was of me and laughed as well. So, if you have a hard time starting out the laugh, just ask the 3rd person how. 😉

  4. Sarah March 20, 2010 at 10:38 pm #

    Hey Mindy, this is good stuff and I love to be reminded to laugh more often! I have become better at just walking away instead of pushing my opinion! Thank you for sharing mate! xxx

  5. Debbie March 21, 2010 at 1:48 am #

    I agree fully? Just the other day the Lord sent us laughter through our children and we had a hearty laugh then and still do now when we think about what happened. Our son was trying to say something and was stuttering. My husband told him to spit it out and he took him literally, spat, and then said what he was going to say. You just gotta love laughter- it keeps us sane, happy, and able to continue despite what ever trial you may be going through.

  6. Organizing Mommy March 22, 2010 at 12:54 pm #

    OK. funny and good word to remind me this morning, since I need to tackle"things"..

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