it’s primarily unintentional.
But, careless words can harm as much as intentional words.When sharing one of those amazing stories about your kids,
ask yourself these questions:
Kids tell us things from their hearts meant only for
our ears and our hearts only.
on a boy in her class. But, if you repeat this too often,
she might not want to tell you about her crush when she’s 16.
If people know your child is going through a lying stage,
If there’s a need to be truthful about your child’s struggle,
don’t hide it. Your Sunday School teacher may eventually figure it out.
But, don’t broadcast it more than necessary.
(We don’t want them telling all their friends how much we yell,
It’s not pretending sin doesn’t happen,
it’s loving our kids and giving them respect while they’re overcoming a sin.)
But, your son doesn’t need a lot of people knowing his problem.
or so later and say in public, “So, is _____ still wetting the bed?”
but push him farther away.
When our kids were young, Scott and I gleaned encouraging and spiritual advice
about parenting from many wonderful families.
However, when their kids became teenagers,
there was a roadblock on that information highway.
Initially, we thought it was because of shame over their kids’ behavior.
We were wrong.
Out of love and respect, these parents were guarding their kids from
undue criticism and judgement for their struggling kids.
Christians can sometimes remember sins long after the Lord
has made them as far as the east is from the west.
They didn’t want them to be remembered the rest of their lives as
“the kid who did _________________.”
Will myy vocalized disappointment with their
decisions mar their testimony?
Let’s face it, no matter how much we love and respect our parents,
none of us are living our lives and our faith exactly as they did.
We need to give our older kids the same respect.
If they aren’t making the decisions we would like them to,
leave it with the Lord.
Always pray, give advice when asked, and allow the Lord to complete the work.
Let them grow up.
Share their victories, their good decisions, their accomplishements.
Let people see them through your eyes of praise.
If there’s nothing to praise and you are dealing with a prodigal,
then just praise the Lord.
His promises will come true in that child.
Will she pray for you and with you?
Will she still love your child?