leaves messy trails,
has an addiction,
does Redneck Repairs,
feeds my kids a lot of sugar,
got a parking ticket,
and can’t make cookies. But there are things I will never share.
1. We erode the foundation of our husband’s spiritual headship when we share his faults in front of others. It may be harder for your children, relatives and other believers to value him as they should if you’ve share too many failings.(I’m not talking about covering up sin that should be disciplined, I’m talking about normal, every day type struggles and habits.)
2. Talking may keep us from praying. Our main duty when we see a fault or a struggle, is to talk to the Lord constantly about the issue. Talking to someone makes you feel better, but won’t change your husband. If only the Holy Spirit can provide the solution, why not tell only Him the problem?
3. When we verbally disagree with a decision he’s made and do it our way, we teach our kids to get their own way behind Dad’s back. If a child has grown up with a mom who scorns her husband’s guidance or secretly finds ways to run things her own way when he’s at work, a child will do the same. They’ll smile pleasantly to Dad’s face, but defy behind his back.
Women may gossip under the guise of sharing prayer requests.
An older woman, Carol, gave me the best advice for handling this misguided spiritual activity. When a woman starts sharing something about her husbandthat’s making you uncomfortable, stop her and say, “Let’s pray about this right now.”
If she’s sincere, she just found someone faithful to walk her through her trials and help her build a stronger marriage.
If she’s wanted to gossip, she won’t come to you again.
Women may not share prayer requests because they fear gossip.
Some women really are in troubled marriages. Unfortunately, we’ve known Christian husbands that have struggled with
drinking, faithfulness, anger and abuse.
Especially during the times that a husband like this won’t seek help, a woman desperately needs help. She may be slow in opening up, because she fears others will skip the “prayer” and focus on sharing the “request.”
When To Talk:
Choose a woman you and your husband are comfortable with, who knows the Scriptures, won’t share your confidences and will forgive your husband without holding a grudge.
When you want to build up your husband, teach your children what a good father they have, be a good testimony,
give a good spiritual example, or make someone laugh, then you can tell hubby stories.
Then you have the right to exclaim, “Ya’ Know What My Hubby Just Did?”
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